I used to Roleplay on AOL when I was in middle school. I would commonly open a chat room and just sit around waiting for people to come in and talk. One day in April of 2000, Mattus strolled into my room. He and I began roleplaying together a lot, though in the beginning, we'd get about 15 minutes out of it and then one of us would have to go. After a while, we began to talk outside of roleplay. I was pretty flattered because he was older than I was, but he'd though I was his age. When he found out I was nearly four years younger, I thought he wouldnt want to talk anymore, but that was not the case.
We talked for nearly a year and a half via IM. I got to the point where I would sign on at night and if he wasnt there, I'd get really disappointed. Then, in the summer of 2001, we switched to the phone. We would talk nearly every night hours. I wouldnt get off the phone until 1 or 2 in the morning. And we never ran out of things to say, which made me really happy. Some nights, we wouldnt really say much of anything, but just sit on the phone quietly, or he'd play music for me.
I knew I had a crush on him. He was really intelligent. When we first started talking, I'd have to keep a dictionary by my computer desk to know some of the words he used. And he was very compassionate. Everyone knows I come from a pretty dysfunctional home, and he'd listen to me gripe whenever I wanted. He'd always make me feel better if I was in a bad mood. One night, he told me that I was "incredible" and to never think anything different. He was also very interesting. He loves music and math (the latter is his major). He wanted to be a professor. He has the same sense of humor as me too. But I'd never been involved with anyone before- I hadnt even been kissed.
Then he went to college. I was upset because I was only a sophomore in high school and I thought he'd go off to college and never have time to talk again. He was planning to make the 12 hour drive to meet me in October of '01, but then the whole 9-11 thing happened and his mother didnt want him travelling. Understandable. We went through a period where we didnt talk much.. I don't know why. I think he just got busy. We'd still talk online, but never the phone. But one night in November, he called me, and things just picked up right where we'd left off.
....So in March of 2002, during his spring break, he drove to Virginia. We had planned on him staying with my godparents, but they went out of town, so he stayed with us. He was only there for a weekend, but the moment we finally met, we knew. We'd kind of already known before then, but we didnt want to label anything until we'd had a chance to get to know each other personally since you can never truely tell what a person is like via phone or text.
There wasnt much to the weekend, activity-wise, but it meant so much. The first night, after we'd watched a movie, I was standing in the den watching the news and he came up from behind and hugged me and asked, "How could anyone ignore you?" We stayed up really late, cuddling on the couch and talking about everything.
Saturday was our first "date." We went to the Boardwalk and walked around. He had me hook my arm in the crook if his.. it was really nice. We drove around the city, and he asked o hold my hand in the car (something else I'd never done with a guy). That night was also the first time he kissed me. I dont remember much of it though! We were on the couch after another movie. It was late and I was starting to doze off on his shoulder, and then all of the sudden, I was being kissed!
That Monday morning, he was going to leave. I woke him up after I finished getting ready for school. I was really sad. He dressed and drove me to school before he left for home. He kissed me before I got out of the car, and that was that. I was a zombie for the rest of the day. But we knew he and I had become "us."
He came back twice that summer and has been making trips up ever since. I go to GA on occassion (I'm headed there for Xmas this year). Last summer, he moved up here for the entire summer to help my godparents remodel their kitchen. I got spoiled having him around all the time. It's tough when we have these gaps where we dont see each other. From the last visit to the next planned one is 11 weeks!
I love his family, and they frequently tell me they approve of me. But most of all, I love Mattus. My relationship with him is a lot healthier than most people I know -including my mother. We disagree sometimes, but we dont get into screaming fights. He is my best friend. I think it was a blessing that I got to know his mind first, and he got to know mine. We're very alike, and we've always been each other's support. Communication is key with us- we talk every day in one form or another. And I know I want to take care of him. I want to see him happy all the time. People kind of look down on us because we're (especially me) so young. But I honestly think this is the person I was meant to be with.
And now, just for good measure...some pictures! Everyone loves pictures.
This is us at his sister's wedding last summer
This is from September. His roomie flew me to GA to surprise Matt for his birthday. :)
And that's the story!